Tola Akinsulire

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A married guy with a precocious son who works his (I mean me, not my son - I bet you know, right?) day job as a financial guy trying to make real estate projects have some sense to the investor. I like to talk about what I learn along the way as I live my faith in life (family, work, friendships, fellowship, community and anything else you can put here).

When You Find It Hard To Forgive

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Tola’s Thoughts On Faith & Life
Someone sent me a question recently. She had been struggling with forgiveness. She really wanted to let go but this was proving difficult. She was candid enough to let me know that she had read books and done an online class.
 
A part of my sort of felt intimidated – was I going to offer more than the better names she listed or would I add to the statistics.
 
But I reminded myself why I got into this gig. 
 
I got into this gig because I wanted to share with my friends on the internet (that’s you) whatever I was learning living out my faith in work, love & life.
 
And that is what I wrote for her.
 
Now I’m sharing it with you
 
I hope you find some value in it

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When God Doesn’t Save You From An Unfair Boss

When God Doesn't Save You From An Unfair Boss

To him, he had the unfortunate luck of ending up with an unfair boss. He was doing his best but for some unexplained reason, he was always the one picked last

Last for commendation and last for promotion if he ever got any. His appraisals were very good but he wasn’t recommended for promotion. This happened more than once. It was clear to him – his boss probably had it in for him.

Fortunately, things were starting to smile his way.

A friend of his had told him told him about a position that opened up in another company. More pay and a better role – just the combination his skills deserved.

“And maybe a boss that appreciates my skills”, he said to himself.

He was about to send his CV and for some reason, he could not commit himself to the process. He was sure he would get the job so it was the fear of failing that was holding him back.

He remembered something he heard in church. “Don’t stay where you are not celebrated”, the preacher had said.

He was not getting the “celebration” vibe from his boss. He was sure it was ok to make the move.

“Time to go where I will be celebrated”, he convinced himself.

But what was holding him back from making the move?

Could God be telling him to stay in a bad situation?

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When God Doesn’t Want The Glory Alone

When God Doesn't Want The Glory Alone
Tola’s Thoughts On Faith& Life

I was listening to a pastor on youtube celebrate a significant milestone in the life of his church organization.


It was a milestone that took a lot of financial investment. As he reeled out the level of investment that had gone into achieving it – it was no small wonder.


He closed it up with this summation – THIS WAS DONE ALL THROUGH GOD’S HELP.


Listening to him, it sounded so right – God is getting all the glory. But a part of me felt a sort of tingle of emotions.


God did it through the generous contributions of the church members.


Would it serve the story less, if the generosity of these could be acknowledged?

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Why I Don’t Ask God To Reward Me When I Ask For Stuff

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Tola’s Thoughts On Faith & Life

During a discussion this week, in one of the faith-based NGOs I have served in a significant leadership capacity in the past, someone was trying to encourage more people to offer themselves to serve more in key leadership roles.

To do that, she referenced a couple of “good happenings” in the lives of previous people who served in leadership and made the “one plus one = two” narrative.

God rewards you with more significant “good happenings” after you serve in a significant leadership capacity within the NGO.

It’s a WhatsApp group so she took the time to list out the “good happenings” that happened in the lives of previous volunteers.

Well, I was one of them – and she added a couple of “good happenings” that happened to me to support it.

Well, I decided to respond. I’ll reproduce my response but edit out key references to place or people (but you’ll still get the gist of what I wrote).

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