Tola Akinsulire

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A married guy with a precocious son who works his (I mean me, not my son - I bet you know, right?) day job as a financial guy trying to make real estate projects have some sense to the investor. I like to talk about what I learn along the way as I live my faith in life (family, work, friendships, fellowship, community and anything else you can put here).

Daddy In The Sky

Have you heard of the term “Helicopter Daddy”? I coined this after reading about a father on NBC News, Paul Wallich, who built a camera-equipped drone to “walk” his son to the bus-stop. You know why? Because occasionally, he finds the quarter-mile hike to be a drag.  A little thought went through my mind – supposing the son gets harassed, how will the father step in?

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When Family Is Not First

When Family Is Not First

Do you sometimes feel guilty that you are committing more time to church events or activities rather than members of your family and close friends?

I was talking to a pastor’s wife who was expressing her frustration at spending so much time in church related programs that she had missed significant events by family and friends. At the time we spoke, she was carrying the hurt of missing the wedding of her chief bridesmaid. The lady had been a bastion of support during her wedding. I think a part of her was asking, is this really worth it?

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Make Me Messiah

Messiah Image

Have you ever felt so useless because you could not help everyone you thought you had to help?

Every now and again we come across people who seem to need more than we can give. They ask for our time, money, space, and attention in ways we have to stretch ourselves so much than humanly required. But yet we really want to do it. I believe most of us carry within us a Messiah complex. We want to save the world. While this in itself is not a vice, it can become a vice if we try to substitute ourselves into the finished work of Christ.

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