Marriage Fight Club2 min read

Marriage Fight Club

I sent a message to my wife yesterday.

“Thank you for fighting for our marriage with me.”

Maybe it was the emotions I was going through.

Earlier in the week, I was on the phone with a friend whose marriage was fighting against the currents pushing it to the rocks.

He’s not the only one.

Over the past months, similar stories from friends, acquaintances, & fellow Christians.

Something was common.

Either one or both spouses had stopped fighting for the marriage.

Sometimes, one of them was wondering “maybe I didn’t come into the marriage correctly?” “Maybe I didn’t hear God tell me – this is your spouse”

That’s balderdash.

Hanging the success of your marriage on whether you heard God tell you to marry your spouse is a cop-out way of trying to think you can put your marriage on cruise control.

It’s the old ready-to-give excuse we keep in our back pocket.

Like Adam, we want to say, “God, the spouse you told me to marry is giving me reruns of Tom-and-Jerry.”

Does God guide the choice of a spouse?

Yep. But not for the reason you think.

He guides your choice to the person that you have a good chance of success if you work at it.

God’s choice notwithstanding you still have to fight for your marriage.

But you can make the same choice too.

Like Solomon, you can rely on your God-given wisdom & maturity to discover the mother without consulting the Urim and Thummim.

Marriage Fight Club

When do you stop fighting for a marriage? This was something I couldn’t tell my friends.

It’s between them and God.

But I know marriage is worth fighting for.

A marriage fought for can be a great set-up for others to see the story of Christ & His Church.

Part of me still hurts. It’s why I keep praying for my friends’ marriages.

I’m a sucker for happy endings.

I keep hoping I’ll hear them tell me.

“We are back to fight for our marriage”

“Back in the Marriage Fight Club.”



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Tola Akinsulire

A married guy with a precocious son who works his (I mean me, not my son - I bet you know, right?) day job as a financial guy trying to make real estate projects have some sense to the investor. I like to talk about what I learn along the way as I live my faith in life (family, work, friendships, fellowship, community and anything else you can put here).