When Family Is Not First2 min read
Do you sometimes feel guilty that you are committing more time to church events or activities rather than members of your family and close friends?
I was talking to a pastor’s wife who was expressing her frustration at spending so much time in church related programs that she had missed significant events by family and friends. At the time we spoke, she was carrying the hurt of missing the wedding of her chief bridesmaid. The lady had been a bastion of support during her wedding. I think a part of her was asking, is this really worth it?
A lot of people live under the weight of expectations at church, home and social circles. Some couples complain about losing their spouses to church activities during weekends. The oft used excuse is that of been busy doing something that matters.
But it pays to build our lives on principles rather than demands. Principles help to reduce conflicts but not eliminate them. Principles help to define our outlook to life and make our choices easier to make. Let me share some thoughts to help you in setting your principles.
- Your family should never compete to be first place to any commitment you have. Your family should be your first commitment.
- Succeed at home and you have the strongest platform to stand on.
- Service to humanity or church organisation does not always mean service to God.
- Sometimes the best way to serve God is to cancel all activities and sit at home with your family.
- Jesus made time to attend a wedding and dinners – you have to learn to do that too.
In all, life is meant to be lived in harmony. Most commitments that distort the harmony of family are probably not really as important as we think they are. Are you finding the right chord to play your life harmony? Please take time to share a thought below